It is objectively a lot more male than Reddit or other social media. Reddit has many issues, but lack of women is not one of them.
Having to block 30 different communities because they’re all literally the same community.
It’s even worse for NSFW communities. We don’t need eleventy billion communities for the same super niche porn content.
That and people posting the same things on multiple communities because it technically fits even though there’s already a niche community specifically for that topic.
This is the biggest thing, in my opinion. Decentralization is a double-edged sword.
If I cared about my Lemmy usage more, I might be inclined to build myself a service that aggregates similar topics into larger groups.
- Lemmy is by and large populated with ex-Redditors, who bring with them some of the same hivemind on certain topics. Eg: Lemmy is very anti-AI or nuanced discussions thereon. Nuclear is bad, etc. Makes bad faith discussions on certain topics almost certain.
- As everywhere else - there’s too much “you’re either on my team or you’re against me” - though notably less than in other spaces
- Upvote / downvote counts: these should be yeeted into the garbage pile of history.
Things Lemmy does well
- Less performative engagement.
- Less American (but arguably that’s still too much for some).
- Despite it all, a measure of civility still exists. Rare.
- You can create your own instance and be ungovernable :)
- No algorithmic engagement bullshit (so far)
- I don’t feel like I have to walk on eggshells every time I post something.
I personally find Lemmy a great deal more pleasant to interact on, with strong pre 2010 forum vibes and I feel that’s a good thing. YMMV
TL;DR: There’s a lot less “look at me, look at me!” on Lemmy and it’s all the better for it.
I have seen no people rail against nuclear on here or reddit.
Probably the lack of diversity among instances.
Everyone is still afraid of defederation, so we don’t truly embrace what the fediverse is capable of.
Do you mean functional/aesthetic or community diversity?
One thing I’ve found is that people tend to have no chill. I’ve shared some posts with friends that don’t use it and multiple times they’ve responded with “why are they so serious”
the Nazi-bot repost spam. So fucking tired of seeing twit-shit here
It’s full of ignorant twats, just like everywhere else. The only difference is in what they are ignorant about
I haven’t picked up my knitting in ages, but I guess I could…
I still don’t understand how to navigate the ins and outs of Lemmy and I’ve been here since RIF was killed
It is objectively a lot more male than Reddit or other social media.
Reddit circa 2010 was very male, nerdy, and often misogynistic. As it gained popularity, the community became more diverse. As it got more traction, these issues abated somewhat. Once it hit critical mass and became totally mainstream, the audience was diverse enough to make most people forget how it used to be. I miss when Reddit was at the “sweet spot” of being pretty diverse, yet not corporatized to shit.
Lemmy/Fediverse is still in its “early Reddit” stage now. It shows great potential but its basic premise and design probably prevents absolute mainstream adoption. Which is probably a good thing, but I would like to get closer to the sweet spot.
People act like it’s easy to get into and conceptualize fedi. I don’t have a problem personally but I have a very rare level of IT comfort for my field and it leaves me feeling very lonely in spaces like this. I even had to take a tech competency credit for my degree (I tested out of it because it was basically a checkbox that asked if I knew how to type but-)
I have a few things.
This place has groups that are singlemindedly bloodthirsty and happy to see people hurt, particularly in the US, and don’t have a problem stating so.
Tangentially - the far left extolling the virtues of governing systems that have never really worked due to weak protections against takeover by bad actors and ignoring that those systems are just as corruptible as any other. Humans are f’d up and someone always games the system for personal or tribal advantage.
Linux. Yeah, it’s great. No, it cannot do everything Windows does, and we’re going to ignore that and deride you for playing AAA studio games that have anticheat that linux breaks or other software that doesn’t work on the OS. That’s your fault, we’ll be smug about it, and still recommend ditching Windows.
Conspiracies. This place acts like it has some superior thought or logic but as soon as something happens the conspiratards immediately make it a conspiracy and can’t be told otherwise regardless of logic - or accept a far more real but less exciting conspiracy. Everyone jumps on the bandwagon.
Lastly it’s missing the hobby and interest groups. It’s mostly memes and politics. I’d like to see more actual communities of interests and support for hobbies on the Fediverse rather than the constant grind of how f’d up the world is.
You should follow Wren from my instance. They have a bunch of really cool and niche hobbies they share. They actually got me to make my own paper with junk mail.
That sounds like fun. Do they have a /c or just post random stuff?
They mod a few communities where they post artsy stuff like making paper, diy book binding, and just now I saw something on cool rocks by them. So kinda both.
Lemmy’s tankies are massively annoying, almost as bad as MAGA and the neo-libs on reddit. There are also plenty of young, naive “I just learned theory” kids who obviously are too socially anxious to actually debate in more public spaces but feel empowered here because the bubbles here are just as insular and delusional as anywhere else.
You really see it when you say something unpopular but true like “There’s not going to be a revolution in the USA, we’re nowhere close to a civil war, we need community organizing and coordinated electoral action” and you get like, 30 downvotes and no replies.
edit: also, yeah the linux cult is a bit overboard, I find myself resisting learning more about it just because how snooty and/or obsessive the community here is. AAaaaand there’s the frowny angry bois seeing something that makes them feel ouchy and slamming the arrows as if that makes me shut up.
the communities here that thrive have massive superiority complexes.
the reason hobby subs here don’t thrive is the userbase here isn’t interested in being humble or chill the way many such communities are humble and chill.
Sometimes I don’t really want to get into a conversation about trans issues. I find the topic very prevalent on here, as if I’ve strayed into a sub by accident. Live and let live, and absolutely respect everyone’s right to be whatever they want, but it’s not a topic I can contribute to - and I certainly I don’t want to upset anyone by wading into an emotive topic I have no experience, interest or knowledge on, so I’d rather just leave it.
I’m just saying that it’s up there with LINUX as a prevailing topic, which I’m similarly disinterested in.
Then don’t get into a conversation about trans issues. You can also replace ‘trans issues’ with any other topics. Curate your own feed if it bothers you so much to see other people’s conversations.
Indeed you can, and that was my point. If a significant portion of posts here were on Basketball I’d make broadly the same argument. This is hardly an insanely busy place as is, so if a specific topic that I’m not interested in is frequently posted surely you can see how that impacts the experience from my perspective. I’ve neither the time nor inclination to curate a feed. Did that on Reddit when I had to, but we’re not there yet. I’m simply answering the question.
Sorry other people existing is such a problem for you personally.
Where are you getting that?
I mean, FFS my comment literally said “Live and let live, and absolutely respect everyone’s right to be whatever they want”. And now I don’t want other people to exist? How do you even get through a day?
Not necessarily saying that this is what you’re doing, but there is a sort of bigotry against trans people that clouds itself in nice sounding language of “live and let live”.
Like when people used to say, “Oh, I don’t mind gay people, they can do whatever they want! …I just don’t want to see that kind of behavior in public”.
Honestly, if you’re reading “Live and let live, and absolutely respect everyone’s right to be whatever they want” as some sort of thinly disguised transphobia then I’m not sure what to say. This is exactly the reason I prefer to avoid these conversations.
Its not the words themselves that give me pause in your initial comment. Its the dismissive seeming tone.
If you don’t wanna get into arguments about trans people, that’s fine, there lots of ways to curate your experience here.
But if you’re finding yourself constantly having these kinds of discussions, maybe your dismissive tone isn’t exactly helping matters. Again, i point to the “I support gay people! As long as they don’t do it in public!” Example
I don’t complain about having to see other people doing their own thing. Weird how that upsets you so much that you have to write comments about how that impacts your personal experience of a platform for people to discuss their interests.
It’s a moral prop. Sort of like pedophilia is for the right, for the left trans issues lets them concern troll and beat everyone over the head with how noble they are for supporting it and how evil anyone is who doesn’t agree 110%. Most of the comments I see about trans issues on here are not even positive, they are mostly ‘if you don’t support trans rights 120% and believe in the removal of heterosexuality, you’re a bigot/nazi/genocide supporter’. It’s insane. but I have no doubt people genuinely think that way because I know ones like that IRL. They tend to be deeply insecure and fragile people who’s coping mechanism is just being insanely irrationally angry. They are just the leftist MAGA types of people.
Nobody believes what you claim they do, many trans folk are heterosexual. Supporting trans rights is a good thing, and opposing it is bigoted. “Left MAGA” doesn’t exist.
‘if you don’t support trans rights … you’re a bigot/nazi/genocide supporter’
It’s better to remain silent than proclaim your bigotry if you don’t want to participate in the marketplace of ideas.
How is it concern trolling when there are actual concerns about trans people’s continued ability to exist in public life?
believe in the removal of heterosexuality
LMAO No one believes this, but I might start spouting it as a joke, if it’ll make you feel better.
What would “the removal of heterosexuality” even look like? Please, go on! We’re all sooo curious.
My beef is that too many people are grinding Karma by posting the same crap to as many communities as possible, even though there’s no Karma system, but they aren’t there to discuss anything. So my feed is just all these OPs with no comments on them. Like you want me to read an article, or god forbid a 45 minute YouTube video, but you’re not gonna start the conversation? Or reply to the people who do reply to you? Too many people looking for an audience; not enough people looking for conversation.
Pretty much just that.
It’s not karma farming there in many cases, it’s just trying to support the Fediverse.
I block most posters that post more than once a day. Some people have 3 month old accounts with 4k posts. No thanks.
My main complaint is the bad search system of Lemmy. You can only search for community but not specific topics using specific keywords.
My least favorite part is the toxic blue maga types, just painful to engage with in general and they’re always trying to make conversarions about who you voted for.
The worst bit is how smug and condescending they are about it, thinking they’re the adults in the room when they’re more like the pigeon shitting on the chessboard and strutting around like they’ve won.
