At this point, it’s become a bit meme on Reddit to share the creepy or disgusting DMs you receive. However, nothing like that has happened to me here yet, even though I’ve been active for the equivalent of three or four of those pervy chat invitations on Reddit. I’m no less active here.
It only takes a very small group of active users (in this case, the abusers) to produce an effect like that.
Honestly, no fucking clue. I’ve gotten some weird dms when I was posting nudes on reddit. Meanwhile here the only DMs I’ve had have been respectful
Well, and Nicole of course
Ah yes Nicole everyone’s best friend of lemmy
Because we are all reasonable and well adjusted adults here
Well… We’re adjusted at least.
Some are just more reasonable and more well adjusted then others here
everyone’s too busy screaming at each other over their speculation on the titles of posts
Seems pretty true
This here is the correct answer.
Fewer people. Give it time, they always show up eventually, like cockroaches.
You want us to send you creepy, unsolicited, dick pics? Odd hobby, but okay.
😂
Oh you like that?
He may not be enough Dick for ya, so here’s another
Dickbutt Cuss!!
No
I just found out about DMs a few days ago and I think that its awesome, anyone want to chat? Any creepy woman on here?
No.
Relatable
Well, there’s no “Get them help and support” button for starters
LMAO
Hey bro nice piece you got there. What’s a DM?
Oh man you missed out on Nicole the fediverse chick
Omg I forgot about her!
Same! For good reason, too.
Oh yeah! I think that was the only DM I ever got on Lemmy.
i don’t think we never knew if it was her or someone else using her pictures pretending to be her
I’m 51% sure it was spam/malware. I feel like I recall reading something that said something along the lines of they were sending messages out so that when the picture loaded they’d get location/ip data of the users who opened the message
I like that your hunch barely secured a majority
“You voted, we listened! Smormu will be the 5th member of the Smiling Friends!”
I hate when my hunches reach across the aisle
Democracy
I actually dug into her (I was bored) and ended up finding her. The photo was really old but she seems to be doing well. Idk what the point of the message spam was though or why they’d use her picture
I still hold the fact that she contacted me as a badge of honor
WHO IS SHE 😭
Someone was DMing people pictures of a woman with a typical “Hi I’m Nicole, lets chat” type of message. At first people were sharing the dm’s to laugh at the obvious scam, and it was an achievement if you a) got a message at all and b) got a new photo. However we soon realized there were many too many different similar “webcam” style pictures to be some random lady a scammer/troll pulled of facebook or something.
Supposeldy, people started digging and found a live stream, and that led to other issues with a flood of random people asking her about Lemmy (not sure if that part is true).
Anyway, we started to suspect it was some disgruntled ex or crazy viewer sending the messages who was either screenshoting a live stream or a hacked webcam.
Admins decided clear out all posts about her to stop the attention so people would leave the actual lady alone and discourge anything similar.
Thank you for explanations ! This sounds like a creepypasta lol.
Nah, more like regular old shitty spam using someone’s photo without permission
Agreed
I got DMs from “her” also. A while back there was someone who would send pictures of herself (not graphic in any way) and try to initiate conversations… Lots of them. I forgot what the pretext was and also the intent, but “she” had to go. You don’t want to be like “her.”
“Nicole” creepypasta lol.
Me too! I still have her dm
I got messages from that account, but none of them were creepy, disgusting, or pervy. They seemed like a social experiment or some such.
I didn’t reply though. Maybe people who interacted with the account got something more explicit.
Towards the end they started to involve gore. I got one with a photo of a corpse and the Nicole copypasta.
That was some fucked up snuff ending. I often think about that time in lemmy history, really try not to bring her up and refer to her as “she who must not be named”.
I remember “her” but I don’t recall the ending. To me it just kinda went away with a blip.
Not gonna say much besides it was grim. Then lemmy instances joined together and banned the user, whoever it was and started blocking the image. Soon after there seemed to be a general consensus across the board to stop talking about her/them. To stop feeding whatever they were doing. And the fediverse moved on.
Im so curious but I’ll respect the conventions and not ask.
I’m ok with that.
Everyone talk of she, but I’ve never heard anything about her !
We scared her :(
I erased that dm from my memory. I had to check, i had dms from Nicole and missy29
theres the fediverse chick.
RIP Nicole
I forgot you could dm people.
I don’t think I’ve ever had something I wanted to tell someone here that needed to be in private.
Links to streaming sites.
ew. Just torrent.
Why would I torrent live sports?
I never received creepy DMs on Reddit. Most I got was death threats from the odd transphobe/racist when I was moderating r/NoahGetTheBoat.
Same here. Bots offering drugs is all I ever got. Male though
That counts !
I actually had this person approach me and emphasize about stuff, getting to dm. Then at some point moving over to a messenger.
At some point he/she just vanished and all communication was deleted as far as I could see.
I think it might’ve been social engineering and scam but being aware I never gave away more than I would more or less publicly anyway. That might have been the reason for giving up.
Lemmy is SO so so so much smaller. They have to be real desperate to try here, especially when reddit is a thing that exists. Everybody say, “thank you, reddit!”
We’re what… 1% of the size of Reddit? Less? (Lemmy+Piefed, not the whole Fediverse). To set up custom APIs and annoyances for what would probably be almost insta-banned doesn’t seem worth it compared to Reddit who will happily allow you to send to near everyone. Hell a basic NSFW subreddit is probably magnitudes larger than all of us.
sigh I just have to do the math for this one, I just NEED to know the actual number.
according to reddit they had 1 billion monthly active users in 2022, then they stopped reporting it for I assume stock reasons 🤷♀️
we know Lemmy monthly active users is ~40,000. I added all of the totals from piefed statistics page for Lemmy + Piefed + Mbin https://piefed.social/statistics?software=Lemmy
so that’s 1,000,000,000 vs 40,000
that’s a ratio of 25,000 to 1. For every one Lemmy user there is 25,000 people on Reddit. that’s 0.004%
Much, much less. Reddit has some fraction of a billion active users, going by it’s status as one of the big world platforms, while we have some fraction of 10,000, so more like 0.001%.
“Users”
Lemmy + Piefed (+mbin if you want) is something like 38,000 users.
Users in general, or active users? Reddit probably has tens of billions of inactive accounts.
If it is active users, and Lemmy-Piefed is suddenly growing, that’s great, though.
That’s “monthly active users”. Though a bit different from how reddit counts their MAU as Lemmy can’t report on logged out users (since that info isn’t collected or shared between instances) and doesn’t report on users logged in but not interacting (you must vote, comment, or post within the last month to count).
The threadiverse is growing but slowly, and is nowhere near the peak of 3 years ago. But no one expected it to stay.
If you check the Lemmy history you’ll find it very slowly losing users, but piefed is gaining users faster than Lemmy is losing them.
Unfortunately fediverse.observer shut down recently so it’s hard to find the past stats these days.
Yeah, that makes sense. Thanks for the details.
but piefed is gaining users faster than Lemmy is losing them.
Wonderful! Glad to hear it. The last thing I heard was just the slow shrinking.
It can’t really go wrong, since it’s an open standard. Slow, steady growth will get us there eventually. Or intermittent growth.
Unfortunately fediverse.observer shut down recently so it’s hard to find the past stats these days.
Boo!
We’re what… 1% of the size of Reddit? Less?
I have no idea but my gut says not even one-thousandth
That’s probably the reason, yeah.
