Lucky for me my parents were both “I didn’t save anything for retirement, my kids will take care of me when I’m older”, so I don’t have to suffer through this.

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    “Fuck you, I got mine.”

    -Boomers on everything from pensions to affordable housing and education to inheritances to having a habitable planet to live on

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    Stark self sufficiency and individualism is their philosophy. Too bad they forgot what their parents gave them so they could reach that point. Including the political atmosphere of unions and good paying jobs.

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    This is my parents. I found out from a relative that after my mom suffered an injury, that her husband was spending $2000 a month on fast food. Literally TWOOOOO THOUSAND dollars on fried chicken a month.

    When the topic came up of them writing a will, they said that I’d be getting the family pictures. That’s it.

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    The people who are cool with this going “why shouldn’t my parents enjoy what they made, why would you want anything you didn’t work for?” are sort of missing the point. The real phrasing, that they probably would agree with, is “why should I support my children and future generations, my enjoyment is more important than their survival and secured future”

    If you really think that you should only get what you work for, give back every Christmas or birthday present or any gift you’ve gotten or are getting in the future immediately. Turn down any bonus you get at work. Hell start paving your own roads.

    Supporting others, especially family, is a good human trait, and shouldn’t be erroded.

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      I grew up in the boat of not ever expecting any type of inheritance. Then my dad remarried and it is a thing, and that discussion that makes me really uncomfortable. I am in the first camp. I don’t feel any sense of ownership or entitlement to that money.

      She wants to go on a fancy trip to Bali? Good for her.

      New car? Awesome.

      He raised me, that was his responsibility. He did a great job and that’s all I needed.

      I am sure there will be something left but I’m not hedging all of my bets on it. Work bonus stays with me, though.

      I’m sorry if this is worded weirdly; my dad passed away two years ago and I am still getting used to the past tense.

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      I’m setting up my kids for their own success. 529 plan, lessons in work ethic and social skills. I donate often, and might leave some funds behind but real support shouldn’t have to be monetary.

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      I don’t think rejecting Christmas gifts is on par with telling your parents not to enjoy themselves because you want their money when they die.

      I’m going to spend my money and wealth as I see fit. I will not raise my children to bank on me dying before they turn 60 (realistically they’re gonna have to deal with me for a long time) so they can inherit some sum of cash.

      For context, I never expected any inheritance from either parent when they died. Neither did I get anything except for a pair of gloves.

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    They spent it on groceries then voted for an orange dipshit .

    I mean I’m not crazy about inheritance anyway for some reason it gives me the jeebies.

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    My parents are land owners My grandfather owns a mansion My uncles are business owners and landlords

    I have two siblings I have no clue what I’m going to be given and this will stress the fuck out of me

    At least I have confirmation that they’ll buy me a place for me to stay in Istanbul and those places aren’t exactly cheap either

    But what about my house in Denizli, apartment and shops in Eskişehir, farmland near Muğla, and the spa & hotel within Kütahya?

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      Its actually a good thing if these people are spending their money and not hoarding it and putting it in savings accounts to pass down. It liquidates money in the economy and should boost it. That said… If where you are taxes are shite and aren’t redistributing the wealth properly it will all just end up in someone far richer’s bank account.

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    Yeah, my parents go on regular vacations all over the world, have redone their kitchen THREE times in the last decade (along with every room of their entire 3000 sq ft house), and can’t be bothered to help me out when I encounter a major expense.

    I don’t know what they think is going to happen when they are too old to take care of themselves, but I can barely afford to take care of my immediate family so there’s no way in hell I could support them too. Hope they set aside some of those fat stacks of cash for a nursing home because my retirement plan is dying poor at my workdesk (or on the street if I become too old to work).

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      Minor suggestion. Try dying poor at your boss’s desk. You have nutrients and minerals that can be extracted for our use, don’t be a hog.

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    My mom just wanted to make enough to spend it over her lifetime, and that seems fair to me. She got nothing from her parents and had to support her own mom in her old age, and didn’t want to cost us anything.

    I would argue that inheritance is a huge driver of inequality. I have gotten small amounts from the estate of my dad’s parents (my dad died when I was 16) and a childless relative and even those amounts jumped us ahead some, I can imagine what some huge amount unearned would do - but it’s just that. Unearned.

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      Middle class families passing down inheritance is not a driver of inequality.

      A dozen individuals controlling 60% of the wealth in America is.

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        Which is the big unspoken thing here: the only reason millennials/ Gen Z would even care about ‘inheritance’ is because everything has gone so fucking far to shit that it seems the only way to claw out of the hole they’re being shoved into. It’s turned into a lottery wish.

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          I wholeheartedly agree with that - what we need is not a system of generational wealth being passed down particular families, but an economic system that spreads it out better.

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        Yeah but how did they get it, and who will get it when they die? It’s like a feedback loop.

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        Inheritance is still inequality in that those receiving it did nothing to deserve it.

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          Considering that rich boomer parents are almost exclusively fucking terrible, I’d say having to grow up with them makes it more palatable. They may get some money, but they never got love.

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    Yeah, one of my parents likely isn’t getting anything from theirs, but the other did, and I’m sure they’ll have it all spent. My wife’s family is the same; the generational wealth ends with her parents. We’re fucked, as a whole generation.

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    Honestly, I’m young, and I know older people that would spend it better than their failkids.

    That’s not everyone, of course, but maybe instead of blaming people born at a slightly different time we should focus on being mad that there’s no non-hereditary path to wealth in the first place.

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    Lol my dad left me everything he had when he died. So, I got a truck.

    When my mom goes, my sister and I might get to split a house we don’t want that’s on its third or fourth refinancing.

    I guess if your parents don’t have an inheritance to give you just never consider not getting one to be a problem.