• Tattorack@lemmy.world
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        I hung out at videogame sections at consumer electronics stores when I was a kid because they usually had a few game consoles with games on them to play. It was also free.

        Was.

        As in past-tense.

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    Nobody can afford that shit anymore. That was a 80/90s adult thing. That or a bar @.@ our parents really got the last of it.

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      Mid-2000s in France I experienced this, tough we certainly weren’t drinking coffee lmao.

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    Third spaces were much more common before the 2000s. Coffee shops where you could hang out with friends were actually a thing in the 90s. Open mic nights and karaoke. I remember we had a common ritual at the book store I worked where everyone who closed would meet up at TGI Fridays for late night drinks, TGIF doesn’t even exist any more. I used to meet up with a bunch of friends at Dennys every Thursday night, and then it fucking closed.

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    When I was younger, certainly before kids, yeah, we had a couple different restaurants or bars where we’d meet up fairly regularly, for either a couple beers or some food, or both, or more.

    This thread highlights the reality of Lemmy, and how it’s representative of only a sliver of the population. The number of people saying “Friends?” is depressing.

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      I thought the point was that we no longer have this. I’m a millennial, and when I was in my 20s, we used to hang out at Denny’s a couple times each week.

      Now the policy has changed and the prices have gone up. We can’t afford to eat out, and even if you can, you aren’t allowed to hang out for hours chatting with your friends anymore.

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        That is a good point. I see a lot of people suggesting it hasn’t been a thing since the '90s, when for me it stopped probably shortly before or shortly after COVID, and mainyl because I have kids. But I won’t disagree that shits expensive everywhere, and I’ve certainly said to myself “Yeah, that ain’t worth that.” So I’m with you there.

        I think I could still hop on down to my local watering hole and meet up with some friends and put some beers away though. The beers there have always been expensive, and so that at least hasn’t changed.

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          I don’t have kids, but it stopped being a thing around 2010-2015ish for me. It does feel like it’s been on the downswing since the 90s, but maybe that’s just because I could never afford to hang out at the bar, haha.

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      I still meet up with my friends at the usual hangout but the frequency is way down to like once every 2 months or something. None of us can believe that shithole is still in business.

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      When i have local friends, im usually the one who noveltysluts us out of having ‘a place’ we go to for food when we food. If i dont agitate for variation, it does not occur.

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    I don’t have friends, but the people at the coffee drive-through have started recognizing me. Can’t wait to get apartments together with them soon.

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      I’m not alone! My local coffee stand baristas have an insane memory and know all of the regulars by name. I could never have that kind of memory (likely attributed to decades of smoking the devil’s lettuce)

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        Dude, no joke.

        I went back to a coffee shop like months later, i had only been a few times total, and the barista greeted me by name. Wtf. I was floored.

        My memory is shit as well and i can’t even attribute to any fun activities…

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    When I was much younger, my friends and I would meet up at the same coffee shop/bistro every day and hang out on the back patio smoking cigarettes, drinking coffee, and chatting for hours. That place is no longer in business, and everything is WAY too expensive now… but years later, some of that same group of people meet up damn near every day at a private beach shack for beers, grilling, and swimming.

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      Living the fucking life man, wow. I definitely had a hang like that in my younger years but all those people are grown and gone, myself included.

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        Through sheer luck, many of my friends are either single or DINKs, so we’ve got the free time to hang out. Doesn’t hurt that we live on a small island.

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    “Third places” in this day and age, with this carbrained transportation and zoning policy?

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      Friends, How I Met Your Mother, Dear John, cheers; these places were either in very walkable cities, or their stories were structured so it would be a way-stop in someone’s commute or travels.

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      I live in a walkable neighborhood, and I have a version of this with the other parents in our neighborhood, where we have a designated night of the week where anyone who can make it meets up at one of the patio restaurants where the kids can run around while the parents hang out. Not everyone makes it every week, but we’ve got a good group of friends.

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      I have a favourite cafe near where I live but I cant afford to go there every day 😭

      100% though there are groups of retired folks that definitely do meet up there regularly like in these shows.

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    No. But in college, we had a pub we would go to for dinner on Wednesday every week with the same group of friends, with the occasional tag along. Does that count?

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    If I’m hanging out with more than 1 person at a time we better be playing D&D. Otherwise I’m probably just there out of obligation.